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Phantom Worry

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The city that I live in seems to be in a competition with Chicago for the title of “Windy City.” We regularly get high winds blowing in over the flat prairie. The wind has made our home life interesting.

  1. When we have a combination of snow and wind, we almost always end up with a 2-3 foot snow drift covering our driveway. The crazy thing is that the yard will be nearly snow free. For some reason the way our house is situated causes the wind to pick the snow up from the yard and drop it into the drive way.
  2. We have had two trampolines over the years. The first one blew away in the middle of the night. The wind picked it up and carried it all the way down the street, past 5 or 6 houses, and dropped it into a pond where it presumably still is today. As the trampoline traveled down the street, it left pieces of itself along the way in the neighbors’ yards. We had to pay $160 to repair our neighbor’s fence. We tied the second trampoline down firmly, but it eventually wore out from use so we got rid of it.
  3. A few years ago my parents gave the kids a basketball goal for Christmas. It was the kind that you put sand in to weigh it down, as opposed to the kind that you cement into the ground. Even with 300 pounds of sand, the wind regularly blew it over. We had to be careful to not park the car near it on windy days. Eventually one of the metal rods that held the goal up, snapped clean through because of the pressure from the wind.

When my husband and I woke up one recent windy morning, we had the same thought. We both experienced a moment of worry, only to breathe a sigh of relief when we remembered that we had nothing left in the yard to blow away.

We laughed together, and Christopher said, “That was like phantom worry.” It was kind of like the stories you hear about amputees who still feel sensations from their missing limbs. Or maybe what more of us can relate to, the feeling of your phone vibrating when it really isn’t.

It made me think, how many of the things we worry about are even reality. Maybe a huge portion of our worry is only a matter of habit. What do you think?

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Do You Think I Should Practice What I Preach?

 

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Recently I went through several days of extreme sickness. I literally did not have enough strength to hold my head up and had to lie down for five days straight. I actually felt worn out just from lying down existing. Turns out I had a severe sinus infection or possibly bronchitis.

I am feeling much better now, but I’ve got to tell you, that was hard.

I have had to really practice what I preach lately. There is just something about not feeling well physically that tears away at your emotions.

I am getting better, but I have had to choose to put my focus on positive hopeful things more than I normally do.

Philippians 4:4-9

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

I want to encourage you to join me in picking what to think about.

Let’s harness our thoughts starting right now so that we can live in peace today!

Be Still and Know Song by Mark Snider

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Got a Fractured Head?

Do you ever feel like your head is fractured?  Like the plates of your skull are literally pulling apart. That’s the picture that comes into my head when I think about stress and anxiety.

A few years ago our family went through a very difficult season when we experienced a failed adoption.  We had a toddler foster son living with us for over six months, and just before the adoption was due to go through, everything fell apart.  That season was one of the hardest times of my life.  Parenting that precious boy felt to me like it must feel to parent a terminally ill child.  To some that may sound too dramatic or even insensitive to those who have lost biological children. All I can tell you is that is how I felt. There was so much uncertainty.  Uncertainty is very hard for me.  I like to “make a plan and work the plan!”  Hourly we were waiting for word to confirm or deny that this baby would be ours forever.  I guess I always had a sinking feeling that things weren’t going to go the way we hoped.

I remember during that season having days where I would literally daydream about escaping.  I would imagine how wonderful it would be to just sit all alone in a dark, silent room for hours.  It was like there was just too much noise and uncertainty spinning all around me, and I needed peace.

After we got the news that the little guy would be moving on, I spent the next few months just recovering and resting.  The grief process just takes some time.

Looking back I can see how much the Lord held us during those devastating moments.  He sent some wonderful people into our lives who loved us well when we really needed it. Though I felt like everything was falling apart, God was actually building strength deep inside of me.  Those hard times build perseverance.  I cannot say that I lived in perfect peace, but I can say that I fought hard to stay in perfect peace, and it was worth the fight!

True peace only comes through Jesus.

Stayed Upon Jehovah, Hearts are Fully Blest, Finding as He Promised, Perfect Peace and Rest. -Francis R. Havergal

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