Monthly Archives: November 2015

What if I were to hand you a blank check…

Recently I heard someone suggest that instead of asking our kids what they want to be when they grow up we should ask them what problem they want to fix.

I decided to try it with a little alteration. I asked my kids if they had an infinite amount of money, but could not spend it on themselves, what would they do with it. This little question gave me some real insight into my children’s hearts and minds.

My fifteen year old said he would fix the national debt problem. I found this surprising in that I had no idea the economy was such a priority in his life, yet fitting in that he has always followed the stock market’s ups and downs.

My thirteen year old out of the box thinker said he would give the money away to someone else under the stipulation that they had to spend it on him! Haha. His real idea was to give money to Answers in Genesis with Ken Ham so that they could expand their platform. He is very passionate about defending our faith.

My eleven year old said he would make really big bombs and drop them on ISIS. I believe that this child has a big value for people to feel safe. I believe he has a pastor/counselor gift.

My ten year old said she would feed hungry people. She reminded me of a time years ago that I gave a sleeve of crackers to some people begging by the entrance to the Walmart parking lot. I had not realized how much that simple act had impacted her. I had completely forgotten that crackery day or that she was even in the backseat at the time.

If I had a blank check with unlimited backing I would start by rescuing all the children who live in the dumps in India. It breaks my heart for any child to grow up without the love and protection of a father and mother.

I would like to ask you the same question.

If YOU had an unlimited amount of money to spend on fixing a problem not your own, what would you do?

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No Fair!

Our culture seems to be obsessed with equality. Notice the picture of my son Judah. He spent so long trying to evenly pour the last bit of Mt. Dew that he forgot which glass was his and which was his brother’s.

IMG_2916Fairness evaluations are bizarre. They are all about comparison and self-pity and low self esteem. As a mom I am convinced that it is good to parent each child individually according to their own needs.

Life is not fair. Period.

Each person is unique. We each have a specific personality with a gift mix all our own.  We each have unique needs with different love languages we use to give and receive love.

God is the best Father and He is really good at giving each of us exactly what we need at just the right time. We can rest in Him.

I’m so thankful that life isn’t fair, because if it were I would have to have all the same skill sets as everyone else on the planet.  Can you imagine if you had to go to college to get every single type of degree available to be had.

I have been to a country where the end goal was to have everything be completely equal. The thought is that no one should rise above the rest, but everyone should contribute equally. It simply doesn’t work out well. Everyone ends up poor and losing when we make equality our highest goal.

We have a really good Father who really loves us, and that makes it completely normal for us to be filled with peace and contentment instead of striving and comparison.

John 14:1-3 says,

“Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.”

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A “Good Day” Doesn’t Happen by Accident

So, it’s Monday again….

What words came into your head at that statement?

I love Mondays!

Monday is like a new page on the calendar.  It gives me a fresh start to live life intentionally.  I love to get everything in order and  start fresh.

I think in some ways we are pre-programmed to think poorly of “Monday.” I suppose if you are spending your life doing something you hate, there could be something to that line of reasoning.  It’s so important to be intentional with your schedule.  You only have so much time.  Do something that you love, and you won’t have to hate starting it again each week.

If you were to ask my kids what they think of Monday, you would hear a chorus of groans all around.  This is partly due to the fact that Monday is a “no video game day” at our house, but I think it is also due to the fact that my kids are big Garfield fans.  Garfield drones on and on about how much he hates Mondays.

What if we were to start a revolution to change the stigma that Monday carries.  What if Monday really is “the day that the Lord has made”?

What if Monday became your new favorite day!

Please comment below one thing you are thankful for today. Let’s see how long of a list we can make!

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Sometimes it’s Easier to Do the Hard Thing than the Mediocre One

My 10 year old daughter recently started taking early morning band classes.  I had been dreading the start of these classes because my daughter is not a morning person by any stretch of the imagination.  Most school mornings I have to drag her out of bed, and we barely survive the getting to school on time routine.

I have been amazed by these extra early mornings. I step into her room, barely say her name, and she pops right out of bed.  Within ten minutes she is all set and ready to hop out the door.  It’s kind of like magic!

When I was a teenager I worked in the kitchen of a nursing home. Some mornings I had to be to work at 7, but I always preferred  the days when I had to be there at 5:30am. It seems illogical, but somehow I always found that waking up much earlier was just easier.

It’s kind of like jumping right into a cold swimming pool instead of slowly edging your way in. It’s scary, but it’s invigorating.

Maybe we are wired for a challenge. Maybe the mundane is the real difficulty.

What hard thing do you have set before you right now? If it is both good and hard, I challenge you to plunge right in. It might be easier than you think!

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The Time my Son Almost had a Brain Tumor

A few years ago our oldest son started experiencing bouts of extreme dizziness and ringing in his ears along with some hearing loss.  After consulting with doctors it was determined that he needed to have an MRI.  Basically they needed to check to see if he had a brain tumor.

Wow, that was unsettling.  It is so hard to go through these kinds of tests when you have to do so much waiting.  It’s like they say, “This is really serious; go home and wait and wait and wait until we find time to help you out.”

I remember ironing clothes and fighting this mental battle at the same time.  I had to choose to put the thought of cancer aside and think about other things.  It’s like I actually imagined in my mind pushing the worrying thoughts over to the side and bringing thoughts of things I could control into the center.

The MRI did come back clear, and he was diagnosed with Meniere’s disease. Miraculously his hearing loss has been restored!

Jesus gives us peace as a gift.  He also commands us to not let our hearts be troubled.  Sometimes not letting your heart be troubled requires you to fight. Peace is not the absence of war.

If you fear, you can’t hear.  If you allow your heart to be troubled you won’t be able to hear the whisper of Holy Spirit as He guides you in your life choices.

John 14:27  Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.

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