Monthly Archives: October 2015

What are You Good At?

What are you good at? Chances are you don’t really know.

Think about it for a second. (selah)

Ok, what did you come up with?

Most of the time the things we are truly good at don’t even make the list. The things we are best at come to us so easily that we don’t tend to even notice them. They can be a bit like water to a fish.

You might be able to identify the things you are best at by noticing what things you tend to judge the most in other people. As my kids would say, “dun, dun, dun…..!”

Now we’re getting somewhere!

As natural human beings we tend to judge other people’s weaknesses against our strengths. This is a primary recipe for disunity.  In reality, criticism is the opposite of honor.

Generally it’s a bad idea to compare yourself with other people.  If you decide to compare other people’s strengths to your own weaknesses, you could put yourself into a clinical depression.

As as followers of Jesus, supernatural human beings, we get to come up higher and begin to value each other for the wide array of strengths that we each bring to the table.

It takes all kinds to get the work of the kingdom accomplished.

Afterall Jesus is the Head, and we are His body. I’m pretty sure He doesn’t want to be all elbows.

What is a strength you just realized that you have? I would love to hear about it in the comments!

How Can I Help You?

I really, really want you to live with peace on the inside. I talk to people all the time who are confused and stressed and just plain need help.  I love to find creative solutions to problems so that people can move forward in life. You really can live free on the inside.  You don’t have to spend your life feeling like everything is spiraling out of control.

It’s important to start to take notice of what you’re thinking about.  You really can’t afford to go all day without being aware of the thoughts, maybe even more importantly the tone or flavor of thoughts, that are running through your head.  That’s really the first step to living with a sound mind.  Be aware of what you’re thinking about.

Secondly, you need to find out where the thoughts you’re having are coming from.  Ask the Holy Spirit (your best Counselor) why you are thinking the things you are thinking.  He really wants to help you. Maybe your thoughts are coming from the atmosphere you’ve been in all day, the music you’ve been hearing in the background, or maybe they are a part of deeply ingrained patterns from your youth.  A lot of times different personality types tend to have more positive or negative leanings in their thoughts.  You really want to get to know you.

Thirdly, you can begin to replace toxic thoughts with kingdom ones.  Reading the Bible and applying the scriptures to your own life is super helpful.  Find a verse that encourages you and stick your name in it.  Read it out loud and memorize it.  You might set it as a daily reminder in your phone so that you will meditate on it everyday. 

You really can get your self control back and own the space in your own head. You are powerful!

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Got a Fractured Head?

Do you ever feel like your head is fractured?  Like the plates of your skull are literally pulling apart. That’s the picture that comes into my head when I think about stress and anxiety.

A few years ago our family went through a very difficult season when we experienced a failed adoption.  We had a toddler foster son living with us for over six months, and just before the adoption was due to go through, everything fell apart.  That season was one of the hardest times of my life.  Parenting that precious boy felt to me like it must feel to parent a terminally ill child.  To some that may sound too dramatic or even insensitive to those who have lost biological children. All I can tell you is that is how I felt. There was so much uncertainty.  Uncertainty is very hard for me.  I like to “make a plan and work the plan!”  Hourly we were waiting for word to confirm or deny that this baby would be ours forever.  I guess I always had a sinking feeling that things weren’t going to go the way we hoped.

I remember during that season having days where I would literally daydream about escaping.  I would imagine how wonderful it would be to just sit all alone in a dark, silent room for hours.  It was like there was just too much noise and uncertainty spinning all around me, and I needed peace.

After we got the news that the little guy would be moving on, I spent the next few months just recovering and resting.  The grief process just takes some time.

Looking back I can see how much the Lord held us during those devastating moments.  He sent some wonderful people into our lives who loved us well when we really needed it. Though I felt like everything was falling apart, God was actually building strength deep inside of me.  Those hard times build perseverance.  I cannot say that I lived in perfect peace, but I can say that I fought hard to stay in perfect peace, and it was worth the fight!

True peace only comes through Jesus.

Stayed Upon Jehovah, Hearts are Fully Blest, Finding as He Promised, Perfect Peace and Rest. -Francis R. Havergal

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